Skip
Don’t
grow up to be like your grandfather, Skip’s
voice rose from the floor. I’m
begging you.
He was lying on his back, studying the plumbing underneath the
bathroom sink.
The
recollection startles me. The flash of the heroic sire from which my
youth had sprung wrenches open memory banks that flood me with
nostalgia. Vice-grip in hand, Skip cursed at the leaky pipe he was
wrestling with. Son
of a bitch!
Why?
Gramps was alright.
I was 18 years-old, naive, filled with an unwavering faith in myself.
He
never worked an honest day in his life. Skip
slid out from under the sink and sat upright.
But he was
happy.
He
was an entertainer and a charismatic… I’ll give you that. But he
never provided for his family. The
head shake was quintessential Skip: totally dismissive. What
little money he made from playing music, he gambled and drank away.
Pause. Is
that your idea of happiness?
I
ignored the question and jump-started ahead to what my father really
wanted to talk about. Just
because I want to be a painter doesn’t mean I’m going to turn
into an asshole.
Climbing
onto his feet, he placed a hand on my shoulder. I
know that.
We’d fallen
into this conversation countless times after Skip learned that I was
enrolling in art school. In retrospect it all seems so laughable.
Those hot-headed debates about art and my future are meaningless
shadows now. By the end of his life Skip was my biggest fan, a
convert who was convinced that painting was my true calling. But
back in ‘81, my father feared that his firstborn would become
entangled in the same dark web that undermined his own father’s
artistic ambitions: drugs, alcoholism and depression.
Skip was still in
his prime. A year shy of fifty, he was as strapping as most men
fifteen years his junior. His green eyes were clear and sparkled with
an unwavering certainty about the world they interpreted. A no-frills
sort of person who laboured hard for the betterment of his family, he
was a pragmatist who looked the part. Void of flash, from the
clothes he wore to the car he traveled in, practicality was the force
that motivated him. A much respected, no-nonsense high school
teacher, he was the polar opposite of his Dionysian father. Where
gramps was compelled by his muse Skip, the stoic, shied away from her
call.
What
stratagems he formed what toils he bore! For months he cajoled and
encouraged, pressing me to study engineering or law… anything
but the Goddam arts.
But the harder he pulled the more I pushed. It was maddening; he was
in such complete denial about my nature. He just couldn’t accept
how similarly gramps and I were hard-wired.
I just think
you’d be better served with a degree that is going to make you a
little money.
I exaggerated a
yawn.
Don’t
give me your attitude... Skip
started to lose his temper, but managed to keep it in check.
The
thought of another lecture about me ‘wasting my life’
was
making my skin crawl. So I steeled myself, bracing for the obligatory
speech about irresponsible artists and the life of poverty I should
expect.
Skip
sighed: Listen.
Do you want me to support your decision?
I
was caught off guard by the tactic and answered him hesitantly: Ah…
absolutely.
Then you have
to promise me something.
Our
eyes met. What?
Promise
me that you won’t attempt to live on painting alone. Skip
took a deep breath. You
can’t believe the burden my mother had to carry around. If it
wasn’t for Margaret, there wouldn’t have been any food on our
table. Skip
messed up my hair. I
don’t want you to be the kind of person who can’t provide for his
family.
Beloved old man!
Benevolent as wise… I nodded my head.
If
your grandfather had been a bit more grounded. Had he been willing to
take a part-time job, something that brought in a steady income…
Skip
shrugged his shoulders; his eyes glazed with concern.
But Ray was too proud. He was so obsessed with his music he ignored
his responsibilities.
I laughed.
What’s
so funny? A
look of irritation flashed upon the Skip’s face, but quickly
disappeared once he’d heard my explanation.
I’ve been
working part-time jobs since I was fourteen. I’d be lying if I told
you that I believed I won’t have one when I’m sixty-five.
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